The author's main concern revolves around the inquiry of how or why some people manage to keep connected with their own natural state of compassionate giving and receiving while other may get alienated by resorting to hatred, resentment, conflict and violence.
Accordingly, Rosenberg simply defines NVC as "a way of communicating that leads us to give from the heart" and the term Nonviolent Communication is also interchangeably referred to as Compassionate Communication. Given that, the second chapter of the book is titled "Communication that Blocks Compassion" where Rosenberg enumerates particular patterns of communication which alienate us from our own natural compassionate state.
These are: 1- Moralistic Judgments, 2- Making Comparisons, 3- Denial of Responsibility, and 4- Other Forms of Life-alienating Communications such as demanding instead of requesting and justifying punishment as something to be deserved. This is the reason why Chapter Three of the book strongly emphasizes the need to distinguish observation from evaluation simply because collapsing evaluation with observation inevitably leads to life alienating forms of communication.
In the following four chapters from third to sixth, the book establishes and explores the four building blocks of the NVC process which are: 1- Observations, 2- Feelings, 3- Needs, and 4- Requests. Indeed, these four processes constitute the groundbreaking formula of Rosenberg to foster peace and compassion at both personal and social level. Then, one has to forge the critical link from feeling to need by posing this question: Which need of mine is not being met when I feel sad, or angry?
One of the most critical philosophical premises of the NVC is that our feelings lay at the root cause of our own needs.
Therefore, in the third step, it is essential to be consciously aware of our own unfulfilled needs which lay behind our own feelings. The fourth and the last step is the articulation and verbal expression of our needs as a request. Request is different than a demand as the former is expressed through positive language and without resorting to an accusative guilt-trip or manipulative threat of punishment. These four steps observations, feelings, needs, and requests constitute the core mechanisms of the NVC.
One can perceive the remaining chapters in the book as illuminating the complementary principles and values which revolve around this four processes.
While the Chapter Seven and Eight expands on the importance of giving and receiving empathy, Chapter Nine highlights the necessity to forge a new compassionate relationship with ourselves. Chapter Ten focuses on anger and profoundly explores how to go beyond our own anger by looking behind the feeling.
Accordingly, anger is a wake up call for everyone to realize their own unmet needs. Newly added Chapter Eleven in the third edition examine the innovative contribution that the Non-Violent Communication may bring to the traditional approach of conflict resolution. The devastating cost of punishment mechanisms embedded in the social systems and the strategies to transform them are discussed in Chapter Twelve and Thirteen.
For thousands of years, human-constructed social systems have been based on retributive justice model which sanctions and justifies violence. Living Nonviolent Communication. Teaches how to use nonviolent communication to resolve issues in life, work, and family relationships.
The principal just called about your middle-schooler. We Can Work it Out. The Nonviolent Communication NVC is a powerful process for inspiring compassionate connection and action. Training in NVC can help facilitate communication an. Enrich your personal and work relationships with the art of compassionate communication. What if you could defuse tension and create accord in even the most vol.
Speak Peace in a World of Conflict. I will definitely recommend this book to non fiction, psychology lovers. Great book, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life pdf is enough to raise the goose bumps alone. Your Rating:. Your Comment:. Rosenberg Submitted by: Jane Kivik. Read Online Download.
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